My husband and I are in the process of closing on our very first home! It’s the most surreal and exciting feeling ever. My whole childhood and basically young adult life I’ve never really had to worry about money. To be honest my parents always saved me, always. My husband and I started dating very young, I went to college and grad school, had both my kids young, and just now are my husband and I feeling the “you’re really on your own feel.” Lucky right? Well, I know I will certainly never be in the financial bracket my parents are in but man if I could give my kids just a smidge of what I have been given id feel pretty darn great about myself as a mom.
So of course with every big idea I have I turn to PINTEREST! Based on research so far, I need my rainy day fun to start and 6-8 months worth of bills stored away. Guess what — I don’t have that BUT I know my husband and I need that so in a year from now we’re above water.
Step 1. ACCOUNTABILITY.
In order for me to be successful I need to be held accountable. My first step to this rainy day fund savings goal is a saving challenge. Week by week I’m going to put a certain amount away in hopes to build up an account specific to rainy days. In addition to that I’m also doing a 12 week holiday challenge for Christmas shopping. No credit card spending this year!
I am going to blog each week and track my new challenge. We’ll see how successful I am at accountability to find out step 2?
Have you ever had a moment when you’re filled with motivation to do something that could change the world? That’s me today. I want to do it all, I don’t know what “it all is” but I want to figure it out.
Lately I’ve been thinking about my 5 year plan. I see myself having one more child, so balancing 3 kids and a husband is #1. #2 I want to write a book! — that has actually been a dream of mine for a long time. Who has the time to write though? I feel fortunate I get 10 minutes of blogging time as I rock my little one to sleep. I can only do so much with one hand! #3 Become a business owner. I have such a passion for early childhood education, supporting families, and encouraging young mothers not to give up their dreams. – wow I’m thinking big right now. But isn’t that how we ALL should think?
Go big or go home!
I want to leave my children with something and the notion that you really can have it all with hard work and dedication.
Nothing in this world comes easy and unless we go after it, we’ll never find whatever it is we’re looking for.
So I’ve been a mom going on 4 years, I’d say I’ve experience some real life lessons along the way. Typically with the help of my husband, we generally figure it all out with some bumps, spilled sippy cups, and crushed gold fish.
See it’s not really the mom thing I’m lacking confidence in, it’s the me factor. The question of who the heck am I when I’m not scheduling someone else’s doctor appointments, changing diapers, packing lunches, and picking out school clothes. I really have no idea what I would do on a day that did not require some form of attention on these two little minions.
Some might say that I’m super fortunate that my kids are healthy and I have a career to call my own… And yes they’re right. But that doesn’t mean I sometimes feel confused and misunderstood when I see young business woman climbing to the top of their careers, couples having endless conversations about THEMSELVES! If my husband were put in a room with zero distractions and had the opportunity to discuss anything in the world, I would bet my life right now anything that was said would circle back to our children.
I know, I’m feeling the eye rolls as we speak. But it’s hard to know I am seen in no other light than what I am to my kids. That, that definition is quite possibly the only thing that could define me. Who am I? Sometimes I want to be adventurous. Sometimes I want to be more independent. Sometimes I want to be more willing to speak up on topics that challenge me. Not all of the time just sometimes.
I don’t know if I’ll ever get to that point. Maybe when the kids are gone, and it’s just my husband and I sitting on our front porch. By then so much time will have passed us by I hope we don’t lose track of ourselves that long. The young, flirtatious girl he once knew, I once knew is still there… Somewhere?