Mom Life · Mom of two

Our Morning Routine

One of my biggest suggestions to any Mom is to have a morning routine. I think that whether you work inside the home or outside the home it just feels good to have routine and consistency in your life. I am asked all the time what my routine is with two kiddos, working full time outside the home, and extra curricular activities. My oldest being 5 years old is now dabbling into more activities! It is nice because we typically have spring sports, winter, and summer so not all of our activities are combined. However, some months were juggling 2 or 3 things at a time! It can get crazy, and the more children you have the busier it becomes.

In our house our morning routine really begins the night before. Of course I am human and have my lazy nights where Netflix and wine find me but I try to be proactive majority of the time. Every day that the boys come home from preschool and daycare I go through their backpacks to make sure we’re not missing any dates coming up, hw assignments, and/or activities. I put whatever I can in my phone calendar because that way I can get alerts when things are about to sneak up on me! I am F A M O U S for being last minute about almost everything!

It’s funny because the way our family works is very much a team effort. Usually when one of the kids has an event where my husband or I can’t attend we reach out to grandparents and great grandparents. We are so, so lucky to have all hands on deck with our kids because two parents working outside the home and having children is hard work!!

After backpacks are packed, and calendars are updated I get school clothes picked out, and that goes for all of us! I lay both of the boys clothes on the kitchen table along with the babies morning diaper! The less I have to grab or find in the morning the better!! Right next to their backpacks I have their jackets, and sneakers as well. This prevents (most of the time) the fight between which jacket and what pair of sneakers we are picking! I tend to have “school shoes” vs. “play shoes” and that limits the fighting as well! Some say only girls are a problem with getting dressed… well I beg to differ!!

As far as myself and my husband, I get my clothes laid out and ironed so I am not wasting any time either. My husband has his work clothes, and gym bag packed and by the door! It is crazy, but without those little things in place we honestly would be running around like chickens! Also, my husband goes to the gym every day at 4:30am so if he wakes me up or the boys up that early he is in BIG TROUBLE! 

Currently my oldest is in a half day program so parent pick up can be different from time to time! I always make sure the carseats are loaded or unloaded depending on how the next day is going to go. Having to set up a carseat while getting two kids in the car, and praying your coffee doesn’t spill isn’t the easiest! I also put the diaper bag in the car the night before as well because believe it or not, I have actually left the house without it a few times!

I even go as far to fill up a sippy cup with juice and put it in the fridge in the morning so I can just grab and go! It’s the little things! My lunch which is usually left overs from dinner, and my husbands lunch are packed and in the fridge before we go to bed as well. We love snack packs, and fruit to just grab for breakfast. Wegmans Grocery Store has cute snack packs with apple slices, almonds, cheese, etc. for $2.00! We always stock up!

Finally bedtime …

Good Morning 🙂

Happens that quick doesn’t it? I like to wake up 30 minutes before the kids! This gives me time to have a cup of coffee while I’m doing my hair and throwing on my very quick morning make-up routine. We are early risers in our house, but that’s okay because the earlier we leave the earlier we get home! Yay!

Quick breakfasts include, fruit, mini-muffins, whole waffles, and granola bars. If they can hold it without requiring a plate, fork, etc. it is usually Mommy approved Monday – Friday! (No judgment please, I don’t always have the time to make the kids eggs and bacon during the work week but I can guarantee our weekend breakfast is restaurant style!)

Once we’re all dressed and sippy cups are in hand we are outta here! Not every day is perfect, and I don’t expect it to be. By all means I don’t say this is the only way to function as a working Mom! This routine is just what works for us, and that is why I share it! We’re all still learning together throughout this journey of parenthood! Cheers to the small successes, and the endless learning!

Comment below. I’d love to learn more about how you get through your mornings!

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Mothers Day

To the world you are a Mother, but to your family you are the World

Isn’t that true? We are the glue that holds all of their little pieces together. Sporting events, HW, birthday treats for school, laundry piles, making sure we have enough K Cups in the morning, and milk for our cereal.

We’re the first to rise, and the last to go to sleep. We lay in bed with everyone’s schedules, drop off/pick up times, and grocery lists. Every bugger, every boo boo, and every laugh we document in our hearts and in our minds. We are fabulous. We are mothers.

The day I became a mother was the day I read that positive pregnancy test. My whole world stopped 6 years ago & I never saw it coming. Fast forward I am juggling motherhood with two precious baby boys and it has been the hardest, most rewarding gift God could have ever given myself and my family.

I became a mother at the young age of 21 years old. I was finishing my undergrad and figuring out who I was. I always envisioned myself to be a mother, but I was told I was thrown a different deck of cards. At 17 years old I went into the doctors with my own mother, and they told us both I may never have children due to a condition I had. Surgery was performed, and my family was distraught. Clearly God had a different plan, and I am so so happy he did!

I was able to complete my undergrad, and move onto Graduate school to become an Elementary Teacher. Children were my life, nurturing is in my soul. My wonderful husband and I got married at the young age of 23 years old and every day has been a blessing. This month not only do we celebrate Mothers Day but we also celebrate our 11 year anniversary! It’s amazing that we found each other so young!

Usually my husband surprises me with flowers, special gifts, and time. I’ve never been the one to rush out the door because it’s Mothers Day and I should be able to leave for a day to myself. Heck Yes I appreciate a day to myself, but I also appreciate being lazy, having the kids make me a special breakfast, and watch them color me a very colorful and hard to read card. Time is more precious than anything. It goes too fast, and before you know it they’re grown with their own families and wives to care for.

Cheers to us Mothers. Continue to be the glue to your family, it is a hard job but it is the best job there is.

Mom Life · Mom of two · Pregnancy # 2

C-Section Delivery

This may have not been the path you planned to take during your delivery but here it is – the moment you were not waiting for. Whether it is an emergency c-section or a scheduled c-section it is truly a memorial experience, to say the least. Both of my deliveries were c-section and they were completely different from one another. My very first c-section was T E R R I F Y I N G because the whole day was considered an emergency. At 22 years old, and the words “your sons heart beat is dropping and he’s going into distress” was just the start of it all.

There really is no way to “prepare” for an emergency c-section except to be prepared that it can be a choice, and you usually don’t get much time to digest it is even about to happen. The best way to prepare is to be knowledgable of this type of delivery and educate yourself on how to care for your body and your baby afterwards.

You will be spend an extra day in the hospital, potentially more depending on the results of your delivery and your recovery. Both of my c-section’s landed me 4 days in the hospital and very, very hungry. When they tell you moving helps you heal and you look at the nurse like she has 4 eyes, believe them because it does. I don’t mean get out and exercise that would just be crazy, but walking yourself to the bathroom are the baby steps you need to take. It will still hurt to pee just like a vaginal delivery, and yes you will bleed A LOT! My number one purchase > granny panties and period pads. Get them, and learn to love them because you’ll be wearing them for a good month.

Fortunately my husband had a paternity leave with my second because that healing process took a lot longer than my first. I developed an infection in my cut and it was painful. It is so so important to keep your cut clean. DO NOT SCRUB IT, OUCH. I would just stand in the shower and let the soapy water run over it and pat it dry. The first few times you shower I recommend having someone there to help you. Standing up is hard and you are sore, so the extra support rinsing out you hair will keep you comfortable.

Rest, Rest, Rest and I know I’m telling you to do this as a new Mom and I sound crazy but invest in a rock and swaddle or a sleeper that stays right next to your bed so when you’re feeding you don’t have to stand up to get the baby. Oh and speaking of feeding, yes you can breastfeed but it will take a little bit longer for your milk to come in, especially with a scheduled c section. You’re body is not going into labor with a scheduled c section unless it does prior to the scheduled event! So your body is not necessarily “ready” to give birth so it doesn’t know quite yet to start preparing to feed. But relax, it will come in and when it does you’ll be feeling a lot better!

When the doctors recommend you not to drive – don’t. It is so serious you stay safe. If an accident occurs you have a very high risk of bleeding internally and no new momma has time for that!

Here are a few of my top must haves!

  1. Belly Band > I loved mine nice and tight. I wore it under everything, even when I slept.
  2. Underwear that went higher than my belly button. I hated anything touching my scar, so I lived in underwear that covered it.
  3. Maternity Pads
  4. Pain relief medication
  5. Stool Softener (This is no joke!! Pooping after a c section is a serious occasion)
  6. Ice pack or heating pad
  7. Hydrate!!
  8. Squirt bottle to help clean out your wound

There is no magic potion to heal your scar and it will not disappear. However, there are creams you can purchase for scaring that might help. Staying moisturized if a definite but I wouldn’t put anything on you scar until told by your Dr it is okay. While it is healing it is best to keep clean and to pat dry.

My second c-section was a walk in the park! It was scheduled, and within 2 hours of walking into the hospital I had my healthy baby boy in my arms. Having a toddler after having a c-section is hard. If your husband can take paternity leave I would recommend it! If not – have your space prepared before you come. The more you have in arms reach the better! Lifting your baby will not hurt you, the doctors recommend not lifting anything heavier than your newborns weight. My toddler was turning 3 years old so he was a little more independent and potty trained! That saved my life, and my pocket book 🙂

Best of luck Mommas!

 

 

Mom Life · New Perspective

The Lonely Mom

I’m preparing you now, this will indeed be a sappy, emotional, pull yourself together post. And I can’t wait for you to read it.

First of all I want to say that this all started from a book I am reading called Uninvited by Lysa Terkeurst. Lisa if you’re reading this, you’re a genius. Part of my new years reflections and promises to myself I swore reading was going to take more time from me than social media, and Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. I am happy to share with you I have lived up to that promise (so far) and I am very happy I did.

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This book in particular is tugging on my heart strings a little and I can’t read another page until I get all of this out to you! First things first, if you are a parent, if you are in a relationship, if you are a person you will find this book relatable BUT I am going to focus on my mommies for this one. If we put away the magic fairy dust motherhood sprinkles on our life and get down and dirty I know we can honestly say motherhood can get lonely. Hard to imagine you feel lonely hearing your name 50x in 5 minutes but it’s true because no one situation is the same. We are the only one mothering our children and living in our shoes.

One of the first things to go is relationships and that includes the one with yourself. It’s the sense of wholeness if you will. Showering by yourself listening to Shania Twain “Man I feel like a Woman” has turned into a quiet 2 second shower because you swear you heard that baby scream! Or going to the grocery store to buy everything your husband and kids has asked for but you forgot that shampoo and face wash you like. Oh well you’ll get it next time right? Let’s not even talk about your wardrobe! Either they’re still maternity leggings that your water may or may not have broken in or they’re jeans pre baby that you still can’t squeeze into just yet. But you’re working on it … right? Then there are your friends, the ones that attended your baby shower and got you the cutest bows for your baby girl, but forgot to invite you on the limo bus because they remembered how embarrassed you got when you leaked through your bra at your husbands birthday dinner. Yea … that kind of lonely. That’s uninvited. 

Rejection steals the best of who I am by reinforcing the worst of what’s been said to me.

Lysa does not suggest that her way of handling her loneliness is going to be our way – but what she does offer is a sense of hope. Hope that if she found a way to cope with this feeling, we might too! Her reviews of loneliness stem from things she dealt with prior to motherhood and becoming a wife and moving forward from the blame put on God. Now this post is not at all going to be pushing religion or what you should or shouldn’t believe. I personally love that she found something and it worked for her because I now believe the same will happen with me.

Loneliness as a mother in the world of social media puts a lot of unwanted and untrue insecurities in our mind. Is that woman staring at me? Did they watch me yell at my son in the parking lot? It’s been 5 years since my last baby, it’s my fault I can’t lose the weight! To be honest – those people probably weren’t paying attention but you bet I think about that every day. So how do we change this? Two words she mentions that honest will change you for the better.

Live Loved

Live from the abundant place that you are loved, and you won’t find ourself begging others for the scraps of love.

So we get out of our house for a few hours. We go to a dinner party, or whatever and your surrounded by people yet you still feel completely isolated. Yea – been there. When it slaps you in the face that you really do not look like you did pre baby, ouch. As Lysa has described it for us, “Proximity and activity don’t always equal connectivity.” I relate to this 100% because I was a young Mom. At the age of 22 I welcomed my first born into the world and never as some say “experienced life.” Is that even a fair statement? I just experienced 9 months of someone growing inside of me – I’d say that is experiencing life to it’s FULLEST!  Yet I wasn’t full because I thought I was missing out on this “life” my young friends were talking about.

Quick recap I am now 27 and my husband is 28 and we’re celebrating 11 years together this year. So the dating scene and going out to mingle was something I literally know nothing about. 

But truth be told, at the age of 22 I had what everyone sets out looking for. Love, a family, and someone to wake up to each and every morning. So whose winning now?? And guess what, the people that told me I wasn’t experiencing life are still single. Okay that’s a little harsh, but in all fairness that’s exactly what I told myself to feel better.

Oh Lysa you’re giving me all the feels.

By the way, I am only on Chapter 5 so until next time my lonely mommies.

Xoxo

Mom Life · New Perspective

Valentines Day Must Haves

If you’re anything like me Valentines day comes and goes as just another day in our house. With busy schedules, two kids, full time jobs, there just isn’t enough time in the day! Back in the day before life hit hard Valentines day used to be the perfect excuse for cute outfits, beautiful flowers, and romantic evenings! Scrolling through Pinterest I started to miss how it used to be, and it inspired me to get back in the Valentines groove of things but with a twist! I am going to share with all of you my new Valentines Day must have’s as a Wife and Mommy to my two little gentleman!

First Step : Valentines Day Outfits

I love having my boys match! That is one of my favorite things about having two kids of the same gender. Here are some shirts from both Carters and OshKosh that are adorable for little boys!

The best part of these 4 items is that they don’t exceed $10.00 which is perfect for the Mommy on a budget and the realistic Mommy who knows that your boys will have these shirts destroyed in a matter of minutes! #reallifeproblems

Now for us Moms : It can be casual or dress up depending on your evening plans. I plan on creating a yummy romantic dinner for my two boys – and it will probably be making our own pizza! I will definitely be rocking the more casual look!

Here ^ You can see all of my favorite tee’s and sweaters for this Valentines Day season! Being able to pair anything with a cute pair of mid rise Jeggings is my go to!

Step Two: Valentines Day Gifts

I love having the kids make crafts for my husband, and the people in our family! Target had adorable pink wooden hearts for only $3.00! Each kiddo is going to paint a side on both hearts and we’re going to surprise their grandparents with them. Nothing says love like a hand painted craft from grand babies!!

I seriously love target for things like this!

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I also have to think about my husband of course and what we’re going to give him! I love Amazon for stuff like this. The bottom three pictures are just a few ideas to get your significant other! My husband loves all three of these things so I will be relying on Amazon Prime for my Valentines shopping!

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Step Three : Dessert

> YUMMY <<

I am not at all a baker, and I will never pretend to be one… Unless I am with my kiddos. Sugar cookies are always a “go too” in our house, and anything chocolate chip is my husbands favorite! I pinned a few easy recipes that we use in my house that can easily be switched to a Valentines favorite!

I hope everyone has a great Valentines Day and it is filled with love and happiness!

 

xoxo

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Birthday Planning

I am so excited to be planning my youngest sons birthday party – he is turning 2! I always have to have a theme, it just makes for a better party I think. This year we are doing Mickey and the Roadster Racers, which I am sure you all have heard of! My very first step in the party planning process is creating my own birthday invitations. With my oldest I always relied on Shutterfly but it got too expensive so now I create them on Word and print on card-stock.

Step 2: A birthday shirt! I am using a company called Queen City Crafts, they are locally owned in Buffalo NY. They make custom designs, very high quality, and reasonably priced. You can find them at shopqcc.com and I have attached the link below so you can take a look at all they have to offer!

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Step 3: A menu. I have been going back and forth with either traditional pizza and wings, or cooking for the party. I’ll be honest, I still have no clue!

Step 4: Cake and Desserts! It’s always a bonus when you know a cookie lady, and fortunately for my guests … I DO! Her name is Jessica and she owns Sweet Eats by Jessica. She has done everything from cupcake baskets for my oldest sons teacher, first birthday cookies, and now to carry on the tradition Noah’s 2nd birthday! I have attached the link for her page on Facebook below and it will lead you directly to her page! As for the cake I always use Wegmans with buttercream frosting and Raspberry filling.

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Step 5: Decorations

Of course with the wonderful help from Pinterest I have put together a few ideas! More than likely I won’t use them all – but as the kids get older more kids get invited so I am excited to put together little goodie bags! It’s so adorable seeing my kids have little baby friends and of course it helps because then I gain some new Mommy friends! Yay!

I always ask for RSVP’s a week before the party so I can get a solid head count before order the cake. Food I never really stress because more is better, and whatever is left over – well hello left overs! When you live in a house with three boys the left overs never last more than one day anyways.

I hope you check out the two links I shared, and that it helps your next party planning!

-Happy Partying!!

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The not so boring food prep!

With my promise of a healthi{her} life style I have decided to actually food prep. Now I have said this time and time again, but the fact that I made it to a gym class, invested in what I hope are some quality sports bras, there’s only one this left to do & that is food prep!

My previous experience with weight loss has resulted in boring foods and late night cravings. After a very long trip in Wegmans and some good old Pinterest research I have found what I hope to be tasty meals all geared towards weight loss. My first set of chicken bowls are going to be greek chicken, brown rice, tomatoes, cucumbers, and a greek yogurt tzatziki sauce.

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My second set of chicken bowls will be chicken fajita bowls. I can’t wait for these!! I love spicy Mexican food – but his time we’re ditching any tortilla shells and sour cream. One of the many reasons this is a favorite of mine is because it tastes good with both ground beef, ground turkey, and shrimp! In our house we lean towards venison which is less fattier than cow. Most fajita bowls recommend quinoa but my husband and I aren’t really into it so we stick with traditional brown rice.

chickenfajitaObviously these are very basic and simple recipes which I think is perfect for beginners such as myself. We could go the easy route and pay for someone to prep them for us, but I really wanted to give it a try first! Lastly I am going to make a turkey taco bowl. I’m going to use ground turkey, corn, tomatoes, some lemon and lime juice, and cheese! In regards to taco’s once thing I am staying away from is store bought salsa. We like homemade salsa in our house – I’m not the chef in that regard my grandfather is and it is 10x tastier and 10x healthier!

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Clearly chicken and rice are going to be a hot commodity in my house so I am hoping to branch off a little after these are done. I definitely favor chicken over any other meat but I can’t say the same for rice. And just to be clear, I will not be eating these over the weekend. My bowls will be used for lunches and dinner options. They’re safe enough to be kid friendly without all the added spices, which I love! Breakfast is going to be a whole different mountain to climb… This is about 3 weeks worth of meals (I think) depends on how fast they go, and how good they taste.

If any of these meals look appealing to you, please follow me along on Pinterest. I have created a board designated to Meal Planning where I am going to hold everything I actually try! I will also share with you each time I make one of these bowls and let you know how they turn out!