Mom Life · Mom of two

Our Morning Routine

One of my biggest suggestions to any Mom is to have a morning routine. I think that whether you work inside the home or outside the home it just feels good to have routine and consistency in your life. I am asked all the time what my routine is with two kiddos, working full time outside the home, and extra curricular activities. My oldest being 5 years old is now dabbling into more activities! It is nice because we typically have spring sports, winter, and summer so not all of our activities are combined. However, some months were juggling 2 or 3 things at a time! It can get crazy, and the more children you have the busier it becomes.

In our house our morning routine really begins the night before. Of course I am human and have my lazy nights where Netflix and wine find me but I try to be proactive majority of the time. Every day that the boys come home from preschool and daycare I go through their backpacks to make sure we’re not missing any dates coming up, hw assignments, and/or activities. I put whatever I can in my phone calendar because that way I can get alerts when things are about to sneak up on me! I am F A M O U S for being last minute about almost everything!

It’s funny because the way our family works is very much a team effort. Usually when one of the kids has an event where my husband or I can’t attend we reach out to grandparents and great grandparents. We are so, so lucky to have all hands on deck with our kids because two parents working outside the home and having children is hard work!!

After backpacks are packed, and calendars are updated I get school clothes picked out, and that goes for all of us! I lay both of the boys clothes on the kitchen table along with the babies morning diaper! The less I have to grab or find in the morning the better!! Right next to their backpacks I have their jackets, and sneakers as well. This prevents (most of the time) the fight between which jacket and what pair of sneakers we are picking! I tend to have “school shoes” vs. “play shoes” and that limits the fighting as well! Some say only girls are a problem with getting dressed… well I beg to differ!!

As far as myself and my husband, I get my clothes laid out and ironed so I am not wasting any time either. My husband has his work clothes, and gym bag packed and by the door! It is crazy, but without those little things in place we honestly would be running around like chickens! Also, my husband goes to the gym every day at 4:30am so if he wakes me up or the boys up that early he is in BIG TROUBLE! 

Currently my oldest is in a half day program so parent pick up can be different from time to time! I always make sure the carseats are loaded or unloaded depending on how the next day is going to go. Having to set up a carseat while getting two kids in the car, and praying your coffee doesn’t spill isn’t the easiest! I also put the diaper bag in the car the night before as well because believe it or not, I have actually left the house without it a few times!

I even go as far to fill up a sippy cup with juice and put it in the fridge in the morning so I can just grab and go! It’s the little things! My lunch which is usually left overs from dinner, and my husbands lunch are packed and in the fridge before we go to bed as well. We love snack packs, and fruit to just grab for breakfast. Wegmans Grocery Store has cute snack packs with apple slices, almonds, cheese, etc. for $2.00! We always stock up!

Finally bedtime …

Good Morning 🙂

Happens that quick doesn’t it? I like to wake up 30 minutes before the kids! This gives me time to have a cup of coffee while I’m doing my hair and throwing on my very quick morning make-up routine. We are early risers in our house, but that’s okay because the earlier we leave the earlier we get home! Yay!

Quick breakfasts include, fruit, mini-muffins, whole waffles, and granola bars. If they can hold it without requiring a plate, fork, etc. it is usually Mommy approved Monday – Friday! (No judgment please, I don’t always have the time to make the kids eggs and bacon during the work week but I can guarantee our weekend breakfast is restaurant style!)

Once we’re all dressed and sippy cups are in hand we are outta here! Not every day is perfect, and I don’t expect it to be. By all means I don’t say this is the only way to function as a working Mom! This routine is just what works for us, and that is why I share it! We’re all still learning together throughout this journey of parenthood! Cheers to the small successes, and the endless learning!

Comment below. I’d love to learn more about how you get through your mornings!

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Mom Life · Mom of two · Pregnancy # 2

C-Section Delivery

This may have not been the path you planned to take during your delivery but here it is – the moment you were not waiting for. Whether it is an emergency c-section or a scheduled c-section it is truly a memorial experience, to say the least. Both of my deliveries were c-section and they were completely different from one another. My very first c-section was T E R R I F Y I N G because the whole day was considered an emergency. At 22 years old, and the words “your sons heart beat is dropping and he’s going into distress” was just the start of it all.

There really is no way to “prepare” for an emergency c-section except to be prepared that it can be a choice, and you usually don’t get much time to digest it is even about to happen. The best way to prepare is to be knowledgable of this type of delivery and educate yourself on how to care for your body and your baby afterwards.

You will be spend an extra day in the hospital, potentially more depending on the results of your delivery and your recovery. Both of my c-section’s landed me 4 days in the hospital and very, very hungry. When they tell you moving helps you heal and you look at the nurse like she has 4 eyes, believe them because it does. I don’t mean get out and exercise that would just be crazy, but walking yourself to the bathroom are the baby steps you need to take. It will still hurt to pee just like a vaginal delivery, and yes you will bleed A LOT! My number one purchase > granny panties and period pads. Get them, and learn to love them because you’ll be wearing them for a good month.

Fortunately my husband had a paternity leave with my second because that healing process took a lot longer than my first. I developed an infection in my cut and it was painful. It is so so important to keep your cut clean. DO NOT SCRUB IT, OUCH. I would just stand in the shower and let the soapy water run over it and pat it dry. The first few times you shower I recommend having someone there to help you. Standing up is hard and you are sore, so the extra support rinsing out you hair will keep you comfortable.

Rest, Rest, Rest and I know I’m telling you to do this as a new Mom and I sound crazy but invest in a rock and swaddle or a sleeper that stays right next to your bed so when you’re feeding you don’t have to stand up to get the baby. Oh and speaking of feeding, yes you can breastfeed but it will take a little bit longer for your milk to come in, especially with a scheduled c section. You’re body is not going into labor with a scheduled c section unless it does prior to the scheduled event! So your body is not necessarily “ready” to give birth so it doesn’t know quite yet to start preparing to feed. But relax, it will come in and when it does you’ll be feeling a lot better!

When the doctors recommend you not to drive – don’t. It is so serious you stay safe. If an accident occurs you have a very high risk of bleeding internally and no new momma has time for that!

Here are a few of my top must haves!

  1. Belly Band > I loved mine nice and tight. I wore it under everything, even when I slept.
  2. Underwear that went higher than my belly button. I hated anything touching my scar, so I lived in underwear that covered it.
  3. Maternity Pads
  4. Pain relief medication
  5. Stool Softener (This is no joke!! Pooping after a c section is a serious occasion)
  6. Ice pack or heating pad
  7. Hydrate!!
  8. Squirt bottle to help clean out your wound

There is no magic potion to heal your scar and it will not disappear. However, there are creams you can purchase for scaring that might help. Staying moisturized if a definite but I wouldn’t put anything on you scar until told by your Dr it is okay. While it is healing it is best to keep clean and to pat dry.

My second c-section was a walk in the park! It was scheduled, and within 2 hours of walking into the hospital I had my healthy baby boy in my arms. Having a toddler after having a c-section is hard. If your husband can take paternity leave I would recommend it! If not – have your space prepared before you come. The more you have in arms reach the better! Lifting your baby will not hurt you, the doctors recommend not lifting anything heavier than your newborns weight. My toddler was turning 3 years old so he was a little more independent and potty trained! That saved my life, and my pocket book 🙂

Best of luck Mommas!

 

 

Mom Life · Mom of two

I’m not a regular Mom, I’m a cool Mom

So what is it that classifies us as “cool moms?” Is it the way we dress, how many day dates we spend at the playground and Starbucks? I think what really matters is what our kids think of us and what we think of ourselves. I’m just over here trying to raise two little gentlemen and keep my head above water.

I often remind myself to take deep breaths, and remember that I am the boss of my house, but who am I kidding? The real CEO’s are my kids and I’m an employee who works 365 days out of the year and around the clock. However, my form of payment makes me rich, rich, rich!

1. I think one thing to keep in perspective while being a “cool mom” is that it is okay not to give them everything they want. What would I be teaching them if I didn’t give them a chance to earn whatever it is they wanted? Also keeping in mind the gift of time. To me making memories and going on new adventures is much more valuable than anything tangible. Today is my husband birthday and I asked my oldest what it was he wanted to get Daddy for his birthday. His response showed me how cool I really am when he said

Mom I already got him a gift, love!”

My 5 year old really understands love – I must be doing something right!

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2. I love seeing how independent they’re becoming – I actually enjoy saying NO! Obviously not with everything, but when my oldest asks me to get him a snack, I gladly tell him no that Mommy is busy and I have put all his snacks on the bottom shelf of the pantry so he is able to pick out his own! Now more often than not he won’t even ask and just goes and get one! He also enjoys telling me no! Shocker right? He wants to put his own shoes on, get dressed by himself, zipper his coat, and even brush his teeth without me helping him! How cool is that?!

My littlest one loves to push up the chair to our drawer and get his pinky and his own silverware. He doesn’t want me to help him eat and he loves to show me his skill in taking off socks and shoes. Even the smallest of things remind me that I am doing something right.

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3. Let them be silly… with you. Stay home, stay in pajamas, and make sprinkled pancakes.

It’s good for your soul!

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So I challenge you Mommies what makes you cool? Leave a comment to share!

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#byefelicia

I never understood this term at first. I honestly thought this Felicia girl was just really popular. Well for the past month while juggling two kiddos I can tell you #byefelicia has taken a whole new meaning in my life. 

When your mother tells you not to be surprised that after children you lose friends, don’t be. Don’t be surprised because it does and it will happen to you. Your single or non parent friends don’t really get the sacrifices you’re making and where your priorities stand. Sometimes you’ll get a few who really look up to the “new you” as a mom and stand by your side as you embrace it. Those are the good ones. Invite them for wine nights, share your kids snacks, and send them a thank you text because they deserve it. 

I used to think I was pretty good at being a friend while still a mom. No I wasn’t able to sit at a restaurant long, I ordered coffee instead of a fun beverage, and I never really finished a complete thought. However, I have an awesome husband who didn’t mind me taking girls nights without our little one and tip a few back. 

Well fast forward 3 years later I now have 2 children. Guess what, I’m really bad at being a friend now, but don’t hold that against me because I’m working really hard on being a great mom. And when you’re a mom I’ll be there for you all 9 months and into the stages of parenthood to offer my laughs and advice. But until then, I won’t be meeting you at the bar because I’m on a feeding schedule with my newborn and my preschooler whose always hungry. I won’t be out shopping for myself because my shopping now contains diapers, clothes for my kids and extra sheets for those who pee the bed. I’ll rarely answer my phone because I usually give it to my preschooler to keep him occupied during times of need. If and when you do get me on the phone talk fast because in 2 seconds I’ll have someone whose hungry, can’t find his favorite toy, or is crying from gas pains. And the biggest thing is 90% of my plans will fall through because whatever they need me for will always trump what you will need. It sounds harsh, but that’s where I’m at.

That being said, this life isn’t for everyone but it’s the life for me. If you can’t see yourself being a part of my crazy, it’s okay I’m not mad and I fully understand. I only have one thing to say to you… #byefelicia 

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Woman’s Day 

Let’s start this out by saying as mothers and wives, lets me honest every day is our day. 

Our day to make sure our husbands and children have what they need to function throughout their day. Our day to pack lunches, come up the dinner idea for the week, work shirts are ironed, diaper bags are filled for daycare, homework is double checked or complete. We are every day super heroes and it’s about time we wear our capes proud! Facebook and social media recognition is not what we’re looking for is it ladies? It’s the goodbye kiss from our husbands, the look he gives you like the first day he laid eyes on you. It’s the “you’re my best friend mom” from our toddler that has had a no good very bad day. 

No matter what happens, how many tears we’ve shed, or upset stomachs from not a very good cooked meal we tried and we have succeeded! 

Shout out to you ladies! Enjoy your 5 extra minutes in the shower today!  

 

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To the mom with a preschooler and a baby…

Congrats! You have just doubled your love and added a perfect new addition to your family. Of course you have already mentally prepared yourself for what might happen now being a mother of 2. You’ve given your first born lots of pep talks, preparing he/she for their new role as a big brother or sister. The hospital visit went okay, he gave his new brother/sister a kiss on the forehead and sat awkwardly next to you on the hospital bed still not understanding why you couldn’t come home. 

Okay… The big day has arrived you can come home. Your thinking of a million different senarios as to how your going to develop a routine so both children get equal amount of attention. You keep asking your husband, “how do you think it’s going to go?” And he so sympathetically responds, “who knows I’m sure they’ll be fine…” Thanks hunny. 

Well here’s the truth mom: THEY WILL BE FINE. You’re not even in the door yet and you’re judging yourself by not being able to lift and hug your first born because you just had a c section and can’t lift anything more than your new born baby. A tear rolls down your face because every day for the rest of their life will be change and no matter how many pep talks you gave him he really wasn’t prepared for this. Don’t beat yourself up, you’re not alone.

If you find a magic book telling you how to be perfect, TOSS IT IN THE GARBAGE because you already are perfect in your children’s eyes. Yes it’s already been 3 weeks and you’ve yelled a million times. All of a sudden you have these expectations for your oldest to be more independent when he’s never had to get his own snack or wash his hands alone after going potty. You’ve watched him go to bed with daddy as he’s crying for mommy but you can’t move right now because your in the middle of a feeding. Just stop and ask yourself, does he end up falling asleep just fine with daddy? Yes, yes he does.

There’s no such thing as a perfect day but your day is filled up with perfect moments. Moments that you can hold in your heart even when they only lasted 30 seconds but you can pat yourself on the back. 

Embrace this type of crazy because your not alone. 

Until next time…