New Perspective

New Way of Thinking

Wow! This week has been interesting for me. Completed a full week of teaching, and was in the most scariest car accident of my life. This week has changed things for me. Opens up a new way of thinking and a new way to feel.

One word that describes my week is: Grateful. Weird right? I’ll tell you why, one I have a new career of teaching that I love. Despite the news – all the fear and debates due to violence when I am teaching I am distracted by it all. I am happy to get in my groove. Two my truck saved my life. Not an exaggeration, literally saved me. I was side swiped by a super fast moving vehicle and found myself with memory loss, a concussion, and a sprained back. THATS IT. Some one, some where is looking down on me.

What does this all mean? Go home, and kiss your kids. Go home, and end the argument with your husband because it really is meaningless. In the big scheme of things – valuing your life is the key to happiness. Get up and do what feeds your soul. THANK GOD for every breath and appreciate him. He knew I had more left to do on this earth and that I needed to finish what I have started.

xoxo

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Mom Life · New Perspective

The Lonely Mom

I’m preparing you now, this will indeed be a sappy, emotional, pull yourself together post. And I can’t wait for you to read it.

First of all I want to say that this all started from a book I am reading called Uninvited by Lysa Terkeurst. Lisa if you’re reading this, you’re a genius. Part of my new years reflections and promises to myself I swore reading was going to take more time from me than social media, and Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. I am happy to share with you I have lived up to that promise (so far) and I am very happy I did.

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This book in particular is tugging on my heart strings a little and I can’t read another page until I get all of this out to you! First things first, if you are a parent, if you are in a relationship, if you are a person you will find this book relatable BUT I am going to focus on my mommies for this one. If we put away the magic fairy dust motherhood sprinkles on our life and get down and dirty I know we can honestly say motherhood can get lonely. Hard to imagine you feel lonely hearing your name 50x in 5 minutes but it’s true because no one situation is the same. We are the only one mothering our children and living in our shoes.

One of the first things to go is relationships and that includes the one with yourself. It’s the sense of wholeness if you will. Showering by yourself listening to Shania Twain “Man I feel like a Woman” has turned into a quiet 2 second shower because you swear you heard that baby scream! Or going to the grocery store to buy everything your husband and kids has asked for but you forgot that shampoo and face wash you like. Oh well you’ll get it next time right? Let’s not even talk about your wardrobe! Either they’re still maternity leggings that your water may or may not have broken in or they’re jeans pre baby that you still can’t squeeze into just yet. But you’re working on it … right? Then there are your friends, the ones that attended your baby shower and got you the cutest bows for your baby girl, but forgot to invite you on the limo bus because they remembered how embarrassed you got when you leaked through your bra at your husbands birthday dinner. Yea … that kind of lonely. That’s uninvited. 

Rejection steals the best of who I am by reinforcing the worst of what’s been said to me.

Lysa does not suggest that her way of handling her loneliness is going to be our way – but what she does offer is a sense of hope. Hope that if she found a way to cope with this feeling, we might too! Her reviews of loneliness stem from things she dealt with prior to motherhood and becoming a wife and moving forward from the blame put on God. Now this post is not at all going to be pushing religion or what you should or shouldn’t believe. I personally love that she found something and it worked for her because I now believe the same will happen with me.

Loneliness as a mother in the world of social media puts a lot of unwanted and untrue insecurities in our mind. Is that woman staring at me? Did they watch me yell at my son in the parking lot? It’s been 5 years since my last baby, it’s my fault I can’t lose the weight! To be honest – those people probably weren’t paying attention but you bet I think about that every day. So how do we change this? Two words she mentions that honest will change you for the better.

Live Loved

Live from the abundant place that you are loved, and you won’t find ourself begging others for the scraps of love.

So we get out of our house for a few hours. We go to a dinner party, or whatever and your surrounded by people yet you still feel completely isolated. Yea – been there. When it slaps you in the face that you really do not look like you did pre baby, ouch. As Lysa has described it for us, “Proximity and activity don’t always equal connectivity.” I relate to this 100% because I was a young Mom. At the age of 22 I welcomed my first born into the world and never as some say “experienced life.” Is that even a fair statement? I just experienced 9 months of someone growing inside of me – I’d say that is experiencing life to it’s FULLEST!  Yet I wasn’t full because I thought I was missing out on this “life” my young friends were talking about.

Quick recap I am now 27 and my husband is 28 and we’re celebrating 11 years together this year. So the dating scene and going out to mingle was something I literally know nothing about. 

But truth be told, at the age of 22 I had what everyone sets out looking for. Love, a family, and someone to wake up to each and every morning. So whose winning now?? And guess what, the people that told me I wasn’t experiencing life are still single. Okay that’s a little harsh, but in all fairness that’s exactly what I told myself to feel better.

Oh Lysa you’re giving me all the feels.

By the way, I am only on Chapter 5 so until next time my lonely mommies.

Xoxo

Mom Life · New Perspective

Valentines Day Must Haves

If you’re anything like me Valentines day comes and goes as just another day in our house. With busy schedules, two kids, full time jobs, there just isn’t enough time in the day! Back in the day before life hit hard Valentines day used to be the perfect excuse for cute outfits, beautiful flowers, and romantic evenings! Scrolling through Pinterest I started to miss how it used to be, and it inspired me to get back in the Valentines groove of things but with a twist! I am going to share with all of you my new Valentines Day must have’s as a Wife and Mommy to my two little gentleman!

First Step : Valentines Day Outfits

I love having my boys match! That is one of my favorite things about having two kids of the same gender. Here are some shirts from both Carters and OshKosh that are adorable for little boys!

The best part of these 4 items is that they don’t exceed $10.00 which is perfect for the Mommy on a budget and the realistic Mommy who knows that your boys will have these shirts destroyed in a matter of minutes! #reallifeproblems

Now for us Moms : It can be casual or dress up depending on your evening plans. I plan on creating a yummy romantic dinner for my two boys – and it will probably be making our own pizza! I will definitely be rocking the more casual look!

Here ^ You can see all of my favorite tee’s and sweaters for this Valentines Day season! Being able to pair anything with a cute pair of mid rise Jeggings is my go to!

Step Two: Valentines Day Gifts

I love having the kids make crafts for my husband, and the people in our family! Target had adorable pink wooden hearts for only $3.00! Each kiddo is going to paint a side on both hearts and we’re going to surprise their grandparents with them. Nothing says love like a hand painted craft from grand babies!!

I seriously love target for things like this!

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I also have to think about my husband of course and what we’re going to give him! I love Amazon for stuff like this. The bottom three pictures are just a few ideas to get your significant other! My husband loves all three of these things so I will be relying on Amazon Prime for my Valentines shopping!

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Step Three : Dessert

> YUMMY <<

I am not at all a baker, and I will never pretend to be one… Unless I am with my kiddos. Sugar cookies are always a “go too” in our house, and anything chocolate chip is my husbands favorite! I pinned a few easy recipes that we use in my house that can easily be switched to a Valentines favorite!

I hope everyone has a great Valentines Day and it is filled with love and happiness!

 

xoxo

Health · New Perspective

Workout Rookies

So of course I get to my very first workout and we (my husband and I) are 10 minutes late. On the bright side we were able to get sign up for the next day. However, I’m kind of happy about that because now I can prepare. Hence the title, workout rookie.

Part 1 of preparation = Gym Bag Essentials

  1. Water Bottle filled with Lemon Water (that is the only way I’ll drink it.)
  2. Facial Wipes
  3. Brush
  4. Dry Shampoo (If you’re going out after of course, but like most Mom’s I’m just going home to clean up the house and take care of some crazy babies!)
  5. Hair Ties … & lots of them.
  6. Refresh facial spray : I’ve got mine from my Ipsy subscription and I am obsessed. Two Faced Prime + Set + Refresh Hangover 3 in 1 
  7. Lip Balm : My favorite Burts Bees!
  8. Deodorant Stick
  9. Body Spray : Love Express All Over Body Mist is my favorite, so fresh & smells delicious!

 

Part 2 of preparation = Clothes

  1. Sports Bra : I haven’t found my favorite because remember I am a rookie. However, I can tell you that I am trying two new ones from Forever21 and reviews will be posted once they get delivered! The two that I ordered are High Impact and Medium Impact. I think for Spin Class I’ll prefer the High Impact but we shall see!
  2. Leggings : We all know us Mommies and I think women in general have an abundance of these. Hello, who doesn’t love pants that don’t feel like pants and are still socially acceptable?! Personally my favorite are high waisted, my stretch marks are definitely gladiator scars but we’ll keep those out of the workout room.
  3. Fun Saying Tanks & T Shirts : I think those random sayings can be motivational. I have pinned a few of my favorites on my new board Healthi{her}.
  4. Socks : I love the ankle socks, they are my favorite! I prefer Under Armour because the colors are the cutest!
  5. Sneakers : Nike sneakers are my favorite. Currently mine are pink and 5 years old. I have never invested really in sneakers until I became pregnant and found out what it felt like to walk around with swollen feet. Being that I have only been pregnant twice my sneakers haven’t had that much use but I am ready to kick butt in them now! I think with weight loss, I will treat myself to a new pair.

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^ 10% off code for Forever21 – I cannot wait for my new sports bras to arrive!

Part 3 of preparation = Meal Prep

Now this alone can not only be a page in itself for my blog, let alone a book! Remember though, this is just preparation! I’m starting off simple tuna patties, and burrito bowls – I definitely see myself having someone else do my prep work in my near future. I pinned a few different meals on my Healthi{her} board so you can follow along!

Well … I guess now it’s time for me to go Prep? First I have a house to clean so lets hope I get a few things accomplished before the end of my day.

^^ Click here to see my Pinterest board!

Health · New Perspective

#fitpossible

Hey Everyone!

How are you enjoying this beautiful spring weather?? I have been outside almost every day this past week with my family embracing it! I hope this is just the beginning and not a tease from mother nature. Having my windows open, and my husband motivated to clean the garage was enough for me to kick start this spring season. As you know from my previous posts my husband and I have been doing “healthy food challenges” in our house. These challenges have been mostly surrounding what we eat for dinner, and myself incorporating breakfast. I sort of fell off the breakfast wagon the other day and indulged in a breakfast sandwich from Tim Hortons. Now if I’m being honest this has truly been my first Tim Hortons breakfast sandwich in months! However, I paid for it later and I will probably not be ordering from there anytime soon. It’s amazing how your body really doesn’t like something after it hasn’t had it in a long time.

An additive to our challenges I have been including exercise for the past two weeks. Walking has really given me the mental break I need. It is obviously I completely different experience when I am walking with someone, or my children.

Remember my thought… Heal Thy Self??

I have been “healing thy self” by walking. So I am putting actions to my words! Like I always tell my husband… Say what you mean and mean what you say!! 🙂

Overall while on this journey I am down 6lbs!! I am truly shocked that I am actually down 6lbs. Once I reach my 10lb goal mark, I am treating myself to a new pair of sneakers. Want to know my reality on working out… I have had the same pair of sneakers for the past 4 years and they do not look at all old. Haha — However, sometimes you need something new and pretty to maintain that motivation. And I just received a good coupon from Dicks Sporting Goods so I figured why not? 

How have ya’ll been taking care of YOU? Share your health and wellness journey with us!

Health · Mom Life · New Perspective

Heal Thy Self

… This phrase has been standing out to me more and more recently. Keeping up with my parental duties, two energetic little boys, a husband who doesn’t want to come home to a sluggish wife, oh and me? Yea me? Phew for one minute I forgot that I live for myself too! One of the first things I can honestly say I deprive myself of is sleep. Haha and here goes the eye rolls. Yes I know us mom’s WE ALL NEED SLEEP. So yea, it isn’t a “I want a nap” it is a “If I don’t get at least 6 hours of uninterrupted sleep someone is going to die!” Well maybe not that dramatic, but you catch my drift.

Another thing that I deprive myself of … Vitamins!!! I am constantly reminding my oldest to take his vitamins yet I never put the fuel I need in my own body. Sounds a little hypocritical don’t you think? How can I expect my own children to grow up taking care of themselves if I don’t practice what I preach!! I would say this whole month has been about making better choices and putting my body back to being a priority. This week we got caught up in birthday parties, cleaning my house, and caring for my sick children. This winter has been horrible on my family!! GERMS ARE EVERYWHERE!!

This weekend I plan on getting back to my clean meal challenges for dinner again. It makes me feel good that I can provide my family a meal that is filling, healthy, and yummy too!! Pinterest has been extremely helpful in this department!

Lastly, I would say my mental health. You know the only time I am truly alone… alone with my thoughts, is in the shower. No exaggeration!! With the weather changes I am hoping to be able to walk more. I have walked twice this month, and each time I feel recharged! Ready to take on the laundry pile! I always seem nicer after a walk, and motivated to be a better me!

Healthy Self = Heal Thy Self

How do you as mom’s take care of you?